BUILDING BLOCKS TO SEXUAL INTIMACY, PART 1
Somewhere along the road, God’s beautiful plan for sex got hijacked, and we have been searching for sexual fulfillment ever since. One of our many problems concerning sex is that we search for answers in all the wrong places, and we come away unfulfilled over and over again. So how do we get there? Let’s start with this Biblical premise. God invented sex. The sexual relationship was part of His design. Look at how he created our bodies. A lot has to happen physiologically for sex to occur. It was not some accident that God did not see coming. It was one of His many gifts to us. The problem comes because we want to have it our way and not God’s way. Did you ever ask yourself the question, “Could God really want us to have fun in sex and enjoy it?” The answer is YES!!! So, if there is really this great gift of sex from God out there for us, let’s talk about how to get it by looking at the first building block to sexual intimacy. It is companionship. Real companionship. Not like you and your dog companionship. This is companionship that is built over time with a member of the opposite sex. As you get to know each other better, it begins to happen. It is a depth of knowledge about each other. It embraces both the pretty parts and the ugly parts. You know you have arrived when that person does something that would have made you run away from a relationship in the past. Instead of running, you stay. I remember the first time that happened with me as Nancy and I were dating. I not only did not leave, I did not even think about leaving, and the same happened to her. We knew each other at an incredible depth of openness and transparency, and we both decided to stay. The first building block is when you decide to stay instead of running. You stay because you want to stay. You stay because you want to be with that person and choose to be with that person, no matter what. That is companionship, and it is essential to sex God’s way.
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